SO YOU CHOOSE A RELATIVE AND YOU THINK HE OWES YOU PUBLIC CONFIRMATION OF BEING RELATIVES AS YOU HOLD A PACKAGE FOR HIM AND YOU KNOW WHERE HE OR SHE LIVES  AS YOU SIT WITH HIS SCHOOL FRIENDS FAMILY WHO SEEM TO THINK HE OWED THEM SOMETHING JUST BECAUSE YOUR RELATIVE FINISHED COOKING SCHOOL IN NEW YORK UNIVERSITY.  THIS NONSENSE IS WHAT YOUR GRANDMOTHER TAUGHT YOU! This is an  illiterate person's game and this is not what you were asked to do and not the way to confirm if someone is your father or relative. What would you do if you believe someone is your father or relative and you have it in your hand to save them? You do what is right since the opposite is your own disappointment.