You disassociate yourself from family in your self projection of the fear of dissociation. All they did was graduate like you demanded. If your look bewildered it is because they would naturally wish to extricate themselves from the violence emanating from you as you project the fear of dissociation. You are holding them in fear of dissociation and you threaten to throw them away and the evidence of their work or the family's prayerful  work in your honor. The family graduated.