You think you are being independent when you kill your own graduate from the U.S., Canada or the U.K.; as if to say we are our own country now and we don't need your education and then  you send the money to England any way for legal verification as you say you need a white lawyer  or engineer to feel good.   So, all you do is hurt yourself, keep yourself dependent and send the money to England anyway.  You were programmed.  There is an underlying thought and attitude that is leading this kind of mass behavior while you get angry if your daughter has a white husband or if your son has a white wife; that they are leaving your community.  When your black children get the higher education with the graduation you demanded after Sunday school, it does not mean that they are leaving you or your fold.  If you buy bread from a black baker, then you should wonder how your children will buy the bread also after graduation and start the next generation if you do not support them.