Did you hear the one about the father who pushed his children toward academic perfection but did not actually go to school in his own life, talked about racism and how it held back his highest possible grade in a program where he did not actually  trust in his exam results but sucked the carrot bag and then decided to communicate  his personal feelings of self-insufficiency and rejection while trying to sabotage every step in his children's life?    He talked about family quite often but did the opposite of what family and family values would dictate.